The World Needs You

“The driving theme of Ecclesiastes is moderation. Buddha proclaimed that the greatest word in any language is ‘equanimity.’ William Morris said that the finest blessing of life was systematic, useful work. Saint Paul declared that the greatest thing in life was love. Moderation, equanimity, work and love, you need no other physician.

The individual who has achieved success is the one who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much. The secret of success is this: There is no secret of success. Keep your chin up and your head high. We are gods in a chrysalis.

Success is a result of mental attitude, and the right mental attitude will bring success in everything you undertake. In fact, there is no such thing as failure, except to those who accept and believe in failure. Failure! There is no such word in all the bright lexicon of speech, unless you yourself have written it there.

A great success is made up of an aggregation of little ones. These finally form a whole. The person who fills a position of honor and trust has first filled many smaller positions of trust. The leader who oversees ten thousand has had the charge of many small squads. And before that leader had charge of a small squad, they had charge of themselves. The one who does their work so well that they need no supervision has already succeeded. And the acknowledgment of their success is sure to follow in the form of a promotion.

The world wants its work done. And civilization is simply a search for men and women who can do things. Success is the most natural thing in the world. The worker who does not succeed has placed themselves in opposition to the laws of the universe.

The world needs you, it wants what you produce. You can serve it, and if you will, it will reward you richly. By doing your work, you are moving along the line of least resistance-it is a form of self-protection. You need what others have to give. They need you.”

-Elbert Hubbard

How Trigger Warnings Are Hurting Mental Health on Campus

School is back in session and this year I’ve read the book that sprang out of and with the same title as the article below. I would highly recommend it and I wish sometimes people were more considerate in their interactions with other people, but I believe like the book and article argue, that that’s not how life works unfortunately, so it is better to prepare yourself mentally for these obstacles, not try to make the road easier to follow but prepare yourself for it like the book says.

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2015/09/the-coddling-of-the-american-mind/399356/

Shame

Shame is a part of life, arguably essential, because of this I looked at the work of Joseph Burgo and wrote notes, here they are.

-Shame is a wide range of emotions, that make us feel bad about ourselves, and self aware in a way that’s painful. Shame can consist of self-consciousness, embarrassment, guilt, mortification, and humiliation. It can be extreme or mild or fleeting, but shame always has that awareness of self.

-Shame has survival value. Studies say shame exists to promote group unity with tribal values. It promotes your chance and the tribe’s chance of survival.

-We often feel shame when we disappoint the expectations we have for ourselves and behave in ways that betray our values. In those cases, shame is useful, since it tells us we need to change.

-There can be no honor without shame. Some people can have no honor and will do shameful things to get attention.

-Some shame is destructive because it’s not about growth and improvement, it’s instead an attack on someone’s character or personality, a form of bullying. Shame, in order to be effective, has to show the possibility of redemption.

-Sources of shame include unrequited love, getting left out of something, appearing unfavorably, getting unwanted exposure, and disappointed expectations.

-We think of the potential for a shameful experience all the time and have a tendency to react defensively when we’re shamed and criticized for something, and worry about the shame of failure.

-Self-deprecating humor is a defense against shame. It’s a strategy where you’re not letting anybody shame you, but it can work against you since some people do not like being around negative people, and it can make you feel the shame of being alone. More tactics include avoiding the places and things you think might cause you shame.

-Shame causes fighting. Instead of reacting negatively to shame, it is better you might instead see it as a learning experience.

-It’s not the original problem that’s causing you trouble, it’s your defenses against it.

-Men can often experience shame because they’re taught to be self-reliant, strong, assertive, aggressive, and that seeking the help of others is unmanly.

-Shame has been used to promote social values that are shared by groups of people.